LGBT+ Youth Cafes are back!
Teatime Sessions open up to the county
Spirit Day, Zoom Teatimes & LGBT+ Book Club!
Yesterday was Spirit Day – supporting young LGBTO people against homophobia. So if you saw your favourite celebs online wearing purple – this is why !
It all began back in 2010 with a Canadian teenager named Brittany McMillan, who wanted to respond with a day of love and hope to a string of widely publicised bullying-related suicides of gay students. McMillan teamed up with GLAAD (Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation) to create the first Spirit Day.
Why purple you ask? The creator of the Rainbow Flag, Gilbert Baker, defines the purple stripe in the flag as ‘representing spirit’. We may not be wearing purple today, but every day we can help combat homophobia and support our young LGBT+ people in living safe, happy lives.
Zoom Teatime Sessions
Here at last! Youghal LGBT+ Network will hold their first Zoom get-together on Friday 23rd October at 4pm. Let’s get together for a chat, to see each other’s faces, and to share any news or stories we have. Just a bit of fun – and we all need a bit of fun at the moment!
If you’d like to take part, email firstname.lastname@example.org and we will send you out a link – looking forward to seeing you all!
LGBT+ Book Club
Youghal Library have offered their support in starting up an LGBT+ Book Club. They also sent on Cork County Library’s LGBT+ list to help us get going! Library services are operating online, so you’ll be able to get hold of books. You can also recommend us a book you’ve enjoyed!
The Book Club can start in the next few weeks, so please email email@example.com to take part – and enjoy looking through the book list below!
International Coming Out Day
For time out of mind members of the LGBTQ+ community have had to hide their true identity in fear for their livelihood and their lives. The constant fear of being rejected by friends and loved ones, as well as the community of which they are a part, has led to many of them remaining in the proverbial closet. This means living a half-life at best, and hiding who you are from those who should be nearest and dearest to you. Coming Out Day challenges this, and encourages LGBTQ people everywhere to stand proud and claim who they are, and thus reclaim their lives and positive self-identity.
Coming Out Day is not just a day that has been designed to help people feel comfortable about coming out about their sexuality. It is also a day that is designed to applaud people for their bravery, as well as help create awareness of the struggles and difficulties those in the LGBTQ+ community experience. Whether your are LGBTQ+ or heterosexual, you can use this day as an opportunity to let people in the LGBTQ community know that you support them and that you are proud of them. It is a day of unity and respect.
History of Coming Out Day
Throughout the world people and cultures everywhere have had LGBTQ+ people in their communities, and in many of them they were openly accepted and embraced as natural, or even sacred people in their cultures. In the last couple hundred years the majority of the world’s leading cultures began to villanise them, growing worse with every passing year.
But in the last few decades that has begun to change: courageous members of the LGBTQ+ community fought and worked to help gain their rightful place in the world, accepted a valuable member of civic life. Really, the battle we fight is for something much simpler: the ability to have a safe life enjoying the same liberty as their more socially accepted neighbours.
Coming Out Day was created by Rob Eichberg and Jean O’Leary as a result of the 500,000 person March on Washington DC for Lesbian and Gay Rights in 1998. This vitalising experience lead them to establish this day of note, which encourages all LGBTQ+ people and their allies to stand proud of who they are and to fight for a more equal tomorrow.
BeLonGTo, the national LGBT+ Youth Service, says their most recent data highlights that coming out is the main challenge LGBTI+ youth face today, with 58% of Dublin users reaching out for support about coming out as LGBTI+ this year.
“Over the past nine months, we have seen 88% spike in demand for our vital services, with LGBTI+ youth presenting with issues relating to coming out (58%), being transgender (18%), and mental health challenges (14%)”. BeLonG To support young people who are questioning their sexual orientation and gender identity. They have created a handy Coming Out Guide for Young People and a Coming Out: A Guide for Parents.
International Coming Out Day is dedicated to highlighting the positive impact, and challenges faced by LGBT + people in coming out around the world.
Coming out can allow individuals to live an open, authentic and fulfilling life as themselves, and reduces some of the stress and anxiety many people feel when they are hiding part of themselves, who they are or who they love. Many LGBTI+ people say that coming out to family and friends feels like lifting a massive weight off their shoulders. Saying that, we also remind LGBTI+ people to consider whether they feel safe coming out and remember that they don’t need to tell anyone until they are ready. Coming out is a choice, not an obligation.
Flying the flag for
Youghal Pride by the Sea 2020
Today as part of Youghal Pride by the Sea, Mayor of the County of Cork Cllr. Mary Linehan-Foley raised the rainbow flag high over Youghal, honouring the LGBT+ people of Youghal and East Cork, and acknowledging the Council’s commitment to LGBT+ equality and inclusion.
Also as part of Youghal Pride, Marian O’Halloran of Youghal Library accepted a donated LGBT+ reference collection into Youghal Library. Marian and her staff were delighted with the new materials and look forward to welcoming readers in to look and read!
Catalogue available here: https://www.cumannnadaoine.com/youghal-librarys-lgbt-reference-collection-catalogue/
Visit facebook @LGBT+ Network Youghal at 6pm Saturday 26th to see our Pride video!
Youghal Pride by the Sea 2020
This year, unlike any other, we can’t come together but we’ve still some treats in store!
On Friday 25th September at 11.30am, the Mayor of the County of Cork, Councillor Mary Linehan-Foley, will raise the rainbow flag at the Council Offices on The Mall (see invitation below).
Also on Friday 25th September, at 2pm Youghal Library will accept the donation of an LGBT+ Reference Collection: available for viewing from Monday 28th September.
On Saturday a few of us will be making a short Pride Video – froma mystery location! This will be put up on our faceboook page at 4pm.
You’re invited to send us video or sound clips with a message of support, or a message about Pride: you can WhatsApp these to 087 9890336 or email them to firstname.lastname@example.org
Happy Pride – and roll on 2021 on the beach again!
Virtual and Proud: Youghal Pride by the Sea 2020
We had a very cheering lunch at CnD Cafe yesterday, and talked about the upcoming Youghal Pride by the Sea event – see below for how you can take part! We can’t gather this year but we want to make our presence felt online and through that, and by engaging with local businesses, council, organisations and people, help build us up for Youghal Pride 2021 when we trust we’ll be back on the sands in full force.
We also agreed that a more regular Zoom Coffee Date would be a good way of keeping in touch. We want to find out what day/time suits people best, so please let us know!
Youghal Pride by the Sea 2020
By the Community, For the Community
A virtual event! Saturday 26th September
Action times & viewing channels to be announced next week: watch this space!
Coming Soon: New logo/poster launch. We’ve a local designer working on a splendid new design for us!
PROUDLY… Raising of the Rainbow Flag at the Council Offices, the Mall by County Mayor Mary Linehan Foley
Maximum 15 people at this event: please let us know if you wish to attend.
WITH PRIDE…Youghal Library accepts donation of LGBT+ Reference Collection
Library Covid19 restrictions mean this is a closed event: a small number of Network members only
PROUDLY…Saturday 26th: Virtual Parade! Dress up for the event, we’ve signs and flags – get your Pride on!
Maximum 15 people at this event: please let us know if you want to attend.
WITH PRIDE…Saturday 26th: Online event / Live stream music which includes montage of photos/video clips and photos of our flag raising. Details of how & when you can view this will be announced next week.
How you can take part from home:
- Video clips: We ask you to make a 30-second video clip ‘supporting Youghal Pride’. Maybe a message of support, maybe you and/or your pets getting ‘parade ready’ – or maybe you’d like to sing a song or play some music – you might even want to be part of the Saturday live stream event! You can send clips via WhatsApp ( 0879890336) or email them to email@example.com or firstname.lastname@example.org and the clips will be complied for Saturday 26 If you want to be part of the Saturday event, please get in touch re length of video, if you want to live stream, or any other suggestions.
- Or if you don’t want to make a video clip, take a photograph!
- Send us your photographs of previous Prides: contact details above
- Photographs will be taken at our Friday events and posted online, keep an eye on facebook @LGBT+ Network Youghal!
CnD & Youghal LGBT+ Network have other plans afoot for LGBT+ people this autumn – more on this in next week’s post.
You may also want to complete this survey if you haven’t already: from GCN/LGBT Ireland/NXF ‘LGBTI Life in Lockdown’
Take care and stay well!
LGBTI in Lockdown: Research Project
Take the LGBTI+ Life In Lockdown Survey to help changemakers understand the impact of COVID-19 restrictions on LGBT+ lives in Ireland
How has the lockdown affected your life? Fill out LGBT Ireland’s quick survey and you will be in with a chance to win a pair of Google Pixel Buds Bluetooth earphones worth €195.
LGBT Ireland, the national support service for Lesbian, Gay, Bi, Trans, and Intersex people and their families and friends has launched the LGBTI+ Life in Lockdown Snapshot Survey to ascertain how the COVID-19 restrictions have impacted the lives of LGBT+ people in Ireland.
The LGBTI+ Life in Lockdown Snapshot Survey is anonymous and aims to understand how the COVID-19 restrictions have impacted the mental and physical well being of the LGBT+ community.
CEO Paula Fagan said: “COVID-19, and the measures taken to address it, have serious implications for the mental health of LGBTI+ people living in Ireland. Social isolation, economic uncertainty, and increased anxiety all exacerbate the inequalities and discrimination already faced by marginalised people within the LGBTI+ community”
The survey will take about 10 – 15 minutes to complete, and will close on September 30, 2020. All data will be collected in compliance with GDPR, answers will be anonymous and confidential and will not be linked to any other details provided. To thank you, our friends at Dublin Google LGBTQ+ Employee Resource Group are offering you a chance to win a pair of Google Pixel Buds Bluetooth earphones worth €195″.
The findings will be shared with politicians, policymakers, and the media to ensure that all respondents from across the country have their voice heard and will be used to inform the future development of LGBT Ireland’s services.
The survey is conducted by LGBT Ireland in collaboration with GCN and NXF
See https://gcn.ie/ for news, features and much much more!
Youghal Network Lunch Date
There’s still time to join LGBT+ Youghal Network members for lunch on Wednesday 9th September at CnD Community Cafe. Please book at email@example.com or on 0879890336 by Monday 7th September – hope to see you there!
LGBT HEALTH RESEARCH
Mapping Parkinson’s Research:
An anonymous Parkinson’s healthcare survey is still open. Emma O’Shea, the researcher, would be delighted to be able to reach people with Parkinson’s (or a Parkinsonian type dementia) who are part of the LGBT community. It will be open at least up until Christmas.
Here is the link to the online version of the survey.
Below is a PDF copy of the survey which can be printed out and completed with pen and paper.
Another option is for people with Parkinson’s (or a family member/support person) to call our project phone number or email researcher Emma O’Shea directly. She is more than happy to complete the survey over the telephone, or to post out a paper copy of the survey (with a freepost return envelope).
This is a national survey and we want to be
inclusive as possible so that we can get an accurate representation of
the whole population of people living with Parkinson’s in Ireland. The survey is being led by Dr. Suzanne Timmons (Consultant
Geriatrician, Senior Lecturer) in the Centre for Gerontology and
Rehabilitation (UCC) – together with the Parkinson’s Association of
Ireland (PAl) and the National Clinical Programme for Neurology.
Both the PAI and the National Clinical Programme have indicated the need for up-to-date information on the healthcare services and
supports available in relation to Parkinson’s disease – this survey
addresses this. It also asks for respondents’ thoughts on how healthcare services can be improved (e.g. re access, assessment,
diagnosis, management, treatment and multidisciplinary support) for Parkinson’s. The survey is completely voluntary and anonymous – no names, addresses or other information which might make someone directly identifiable
will be collected. It takes roughly 15/20 minutes, and can be completed by a person with Parkinson’s alone – or together with, or
by, a family member/friend.
Researchers say: “Our aim is to reach LGBT+ people who are living with
Parkinson’s disease. We are conscious that LGBT+ people living with Parkinson’s may be
especially vulnerable, and we want to be sure to try as hard as
possible to capture these perspectives within the national survey. This will give us much needed data for future service planning.
There is a project facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/mapping.parkinsons.3
And a twitter page: https://twitter.com/ParkinsonsProj1
Researcher: Dr Emma O’ Shea, Postdoctoral Researcher, Centre for Gerontology & Rehabilitation, University College Cork. Tel: 0860354526
LGBT+ DEMENTIA NETWORK
Cumann na Daoine and LGBT+ Youghal Network are working with a number of partners to provide a support network for LGBT+ people living with dementia.
We are asking groups working with LGBT people to let us know if they have members who might benefit from this: people can take part in any part of the country as the Network will be online for the first period of time. Do get in touch if you think this might help you or your loved one.
Call Hayley on 0879890336 for more information.
TRANS STORIES & SUPPORTS
Gender Recognition & Support
On July 15th 2015, the Irish Government passed the Gender Recognition Act. Gender recognition legislation provides a process enabling trans people to achieve full legal recognition of their preferred gender and allows for the acquisition of a new birth certificate that reflects this change.
The Gender Recognition Act allows all individuals over the age of 18 to self-declare their own gender identity. Young people aged 16-17 can also apply to be legally recognised, though the process is more onerous. A copy of the Act can be found here.
The application process is now open and available on the Department of Social Protection website here.
TENI will continue to advocate for the meaningful inclusion of young, intersex and non-binary people in the Gender Recognition Act.
For more information visit the Transgender Equality Network (TENI) at www.teni.ie TENI also offer peer and family supports across the country.
Gender Rebels Cork is a group based in Cork City which advocates and supports all transgender, non-binary, intersex and gender non-conforming individuals.
Luna, who is 18, is an only child. Her mother is a single parent. They lived in Poland until Luna was 10. “From my earliest memory, I didn’t understand why I wasn’t allowed wear girl’s clothes. I always wanted to, and I made it very clear to my mum that I wanted to. She was gentle with me, and she didn’t get cross, but I never understood why she wouldn’t let me.”
Until she was seven or eight she told her friends that she wanted to be a girl. It was a time when boys and girls played together at school, and she always played a female in make-believe games. “I expressed myself and I made it clear. I didn’t, at the time, understand the notion of someone not being accepted because of their gender or who they liked. Speaking it now, I understand that I wanted to be heard.” But she stopped saying it when she realised how socially unacceptable it was. The bullying began when she started fifth class in Ireland, with barely a word of English. “I never looked masculine. I had soft features and long hair and was very often mistaken for a girl. I tried to blame my difference on the fact that I was gay, so I came out. I was so feminine and everyone knew, so I didn’t have to confirm it.”
Living in New Ross, Co Wexford, there were few sources of support. Luna is particularly feminine, and her true gender was breaking through. “It happened gradually and subconsciously. Puberty wasn’t too harsh on me, and my body was androgynous all along, so I didn’t fully realise. I knew the hardship and consequences of social transition. “But it eventually reached a point where I knew I had to transition. I started make-up at 15. By 16 I refused to shop in the male section any more. Then I felt I needed to go on hormones, and that is when I finally understood that I am a woman.” In sixth year Luna spoke to a school counsellor. She was already wearing feminine clothes and had long hair. Luna says that, although the school was supportive, name and pronoun changes would have been awkward. She was prepared to wait five months – until the end of school – to fully transition socially. There was a lot of staring, isolation and distance from other students. Her mother didn’t really understand at first, but she has become a huge support, and the two women have grown closer. Luna is now a first-year student at Dublin City University, studying international relations. She’s charismatic, extremely mature and intelligent, and, by her own admission, a little intense. Luna was, initially, the only young trans person willing to be identified and photographed for this series. A week after being interviewed, Daniel approached us with a willingness to be photographed, saying that, although he understands why trans people are often unwilling to go public, he is now ready to put himself forward. Luna says that she wants to change society. “I know that there will be people who mock me and who are oblivious to what I say, but, for all that, there will be at least one person who will find me helpful. It’s that one person who I want to help.”
source: Irish Times, 11/4/15
Jamie O Herlihy is an Irish trans woman who has documented elements of her transition on this vlog:
Her experiences reflect many of the challenges faced by trans people in Ireland today.
Negative Experiences with National Gender Service
Noah Halpin, founder of This Is Me – Trans Healthcare Campaign, shared his experience on social media, with others soon doing the same.
GCN News 28/07/20
Written by Peter Dunne
Following a recent report that the National Gender Service now insists adult patients’ parents be present at assessments, trans people in Ireland have been sharing on social media their own experiences of the service.
Noah Halpin of This Is Me – Trans Healthcare Campaign shared a Tweet which read, “I never ever wanted to talk about this. I still don’t. But it’s important. It’s important for you all to know what we go through.” The Twitter thread continued to describe how he was referred to the National Gender Service at Loughlinstown Hospital, finally getting an appointment 2.5 years later. Halpin went on to describe his first psychiatric appointment as “horrific”.
“It was over three hours long with an eight minute break in between and it was odd. The first half, he sat in front of me with a psychiatric nurse sitting to the side of me. The second half, he sat in front of me and had the nurse sit behind me, where I couldn’t see her. Both were writing notes as I spoke. I was asked plenty of pretty normal questions. Then it got highly intrusive, hyper sexualised and to be blunt, voyeuristic.
“I was asked how I ‘pick up men? Is it on hook-up apps or in bars?’ I was asked that when I have sex ‘how does the mechanics of that play out?’
The questions became more graphic until Halpin asked, “what any of this line of questioning is connected to my gender identity? I was told that these were the questions I needed to answer to be accurately assessed.”
The Tweets continued that the questions “moved on to my relationship with my parents. Then any past emotional, physical, sexual abuse. About my parents relationship and my life from birth to now. As if ANY of this made me trans. I’m lucky that I’m thick skinned. Most aren’t.”
Trans people throughout Ireland then shared their own stories. All discussed the inappropriate questions involved in the assessment, the level of intrusion and the impact it had on them.
One person shared, “Pay attention to what trans people are saying re: the National Gender Service. If cis people were subjected to this treatment it would have been a national scandal.”
COMING OUT – WHAT DOES IT MEAN?
Coming Out is the term used by lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people to describe their experience of discovery, self-acceptance, openness and honesty about their LGBT identity and their decision to disclose, i.e. to share this with others when and how they choose. While coming out can be a challenging time most people get a positive and supportive response from family and friends and feel happy that they made the decision to come out. You can read more online about coming out by clicking on the links on the right hand side of this page or you can download one of the useful documents listed.
People come out at all ages and in different ways. We can be out to a few people in our lives, everybody in our lives or somewhere in-between. Throughout our lives who we are out to may change depending on our circumstances. The families of lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender people often feel that they too must come out and this can cause stress and worry. If you are a family member of a lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender person and you feel you need support, please see our section on families.
People in straight presenting relationships may also come out as lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender. This can be a very difficult and confusing time for them and they may have concerns about the impact this can have on their spouse/partner and/or children. LGBT Ireland helpline volunteers are trained to listen and provide support to people dealing with this situation.
Stages of Coming Out
- Stage 1 Discovery – this is where you start to question if you might be lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender because of feelings you’re having.
- Stage 2 Acceptance – this is when you start to accept that you are lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender. Telling the first person is a sign of acceptance.
- Stage 3 Integration – this is when you begin to get comfortable expressing your lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender identity and living your life accordingly.
Everyone’s experience of discovering their LGBT identity is different as is their experience of the stages of coming out. It is normal to experience feelings of anxiety and worry especially in relation to how people might react when you tell them. Having someone to talk to and getting emotional support can help you deal with the stresses of coming out. Most people tell a friend before telling their family but some people call a helpline or a professional like their GP before telling friends and family. Most people feel a weight is lifted off their shoulders after they come out and feel relieved.
Whoever you are or whatever your circumstances, coming out can be both challenging and rewarding. Research has shown that regardless of how well the experience of coming out goes for people, the period prior to coming out can be a time of significant stress. But research also shows that despite the stress and worry people can experience before telling someone for the first time, most people say that telling people went well for them and that they are happier after coming out to family, friends and colleagues. What seems to make a difference is having support from someone who you feel you can confide in – whether it’s a trusted friend or family member, a helpline volunteer or a professional.
There is a lot of support available across Ireland for people who are coming out. You can see what is available in your area by looking by clicking on the map or you will find a list of support organisations here. If you’d like to speak to someone about coming out you can call LGBT Ireland’s helpline on 1890 929 539 and speak to one of our volunteers in confidence.
Heart To Heart – Our Coming Out video
FOR HELP AND SUPPORT, VISIT
And a little Diana Ross for you…’I’m Coming Out’
PARENTAL RIGHTS FOR LGBT+ FAMILIES IMPROVED
SUPPORT FOR LGBT+ COMMUNTIIES
LGBT+ Youth Supports
The past few months have been a difficult time for LGBTI+ young people, with 93% telling BeLonG To they have experienced stress, anxiety and depression during lockdown.
In order to respond to the needs of this vulnerable group, BeLonG To rapidly moved their specialised support services online, offering one-to-one support over text, phone and email. Additionally, they moved their Youth Groups online and invited existing members to join via Zoom.
“Today I am pleased to let you know that from this week BeLonG To are opening a new online service and reopening their frontline services.
New Virtual LGBTI+ Youth Group
On Monday July 20th, we will launch our first online group for new LGBTI+ young people between 14 and 23. The group will run for 4-weeks and take place every Monday from 3-4pm. Join our friendly Youth Workers to meet other LGBTI+ young people, for an introduction to BeLonG To, Pride history and fun and games. Sign up here https://belongtoyouthservices.cmail19.com/t/i-l-xkljjud-jjdhddklii-r/. to join the group. Help us spread the word and let LGBTI+ young people in your life know about this new service.
Reopening of Frontline Service
Our Youth Workers are now facilitating weekly face-to-face peer support groups at our HQ in Dublin. These groups are open by invitation to LGBTI+ youth who are not out at home and cannot access online services. We have undertaken a number of measures to limit the risk of Covid-19, to staff and young people and feel safe and supported to open up limited frontline services again.
Our digital support services and digital youth groups will continue to run online, over phone and email. We are dedicated to supporting LGBTI+ young people during this time and will keep you updated.”
Moninne (she/her): CEO, BeLonG To Youth Services
Youghal Pride by the Sea 2020
Youghal Pride by the Sea will be a smaller but entirely beautiful event this year: a beach picnic with music (bring your own picnic!) on Sunday September 20th, 4-6pm on The Strand. We will have some music but this event is primarily to bring us together (while socially distancing on the beach) and to celebrate in good company. More details soon!
TENI appoint new CEO
On Saturday evening as part of our Gender Recognition 5 Years on programme, TENI was delighted to announce the appointment of Éirénne Carroll as our new Chief Executive Officer (CEO). Éirénne will join the TENI team in coming months.
Éirénne comes to TENI with an extensive history in launching and leading non-profit initiatives across the globe. She has worked in Kolkata, India creating a homeless to housed and educated program. In Pokhara, Nepal she has worked with leading a drug rehabilitation centre for homeless children. In the United States she has worked on refugee resettlement teams, with at-risk youth and in education and marketing development of schools.
Most importantly she has worked on LGBTQ+ advocacy projects and transgender equality programming. She was foundational to starting The Trans Love Project, an organisation that exists to spread funds to smaller, underfunded trans non-profits in the US that support advocacy and youth programming.
She has also worked on journalism articles combating state level anti-trans legislation that have been published in the Huffington Post, The Durham Herald Sun, and the Denton Record Chronicle. These pieces dismantled anti-trans tropes and stereotypes and helped grassroots organisations overturn or stop the passing of bathroom laws, and restrictions to medical care. In her former work she also was responsible for running multiple philanthropic events that would host up to 60,000 people to celebrate Pride and raise funding for LGBT Centres in her state.
All in all, Éirénne is bringing a tenacity to TENI that she sees continuing to expand the educational work of the organisation which will enhance advocacy, and build strong collaborations with other organisations in Ireland and across the world.
Commenting on the appointment, TENI Chair Sara R Phillips said, “After a comprehensive and intensive hiring process, we are delighted to announce Éirénne’s appointment as the next Chief Executive Officer of TENI. Éirénne brings a new vibrancy to the TENI team, with extensive knowledge in running not for profit programmes throughout the world and central to community organisation in North Carolina. She will be a great addition to our already strong team. The Board look forward to supporting Éirénne and the TENI team in implementing our 3-year strategic plan and creating an Ireland where all people, regardless of their gender identity or expression can enjoy full acceptance, equality and human rights.”
Éirénne commenting on her appointment said, “I am humbled and ecstatic to be joining the work of TENI. From their staff to board they have been passionate leaders across Ireland and have been fundamental in creating a progressive Ireland that is a world leader in transgender rights and equality. However, that doesn’t mean the work is over. I look forward to working on broader education initiatives that will protect and aid transgender children and transgender employees. I am also passionate about pushing forward full recognition for our non-binary and intersex friends, family and colleagues. I envision achieving the long-term goal of an Ireland where transgender people are not just accepted but are thriving, welcomed and supported in every single way. I believe and am ready to get to work for creating an Ireland that will be an international beacon of what true inclusion of diversity looks like.”
TENI (Transgender Equality Network Ireland):
TENI is a non-profit organisation supporting the trans community in Ireland. Our vision is a world where all people, regardless of gender identity or expression, enjoy full acceptance, equality and human rights. Through support, education, advocacy and community development, TENI seeks to advance the rights and equality, and improve the lives of trans people and their families.
Sara R Phillips, TENI Chair
E mail: firstname.lastname@example.org
LGBT & Dementia
Starting conversations about the experience of LGBT people with dementia: and exploring ways that the specific needs and challenges faced by LGBT people with dementia can be better supported.
Here is some reading material – so our conversations can be more informed.
Reporting Hate Crime
No-one should have to undergo homophobic or racist abuse. If this happens to you, there are supports available and if you can, please report it to the Gardai. The more we report hate crime, the more evidence we have to enact Hate Crime legislation!
You can get information here: https://lgbt.ie/get-information/harassment-and-violence/
and details on how to report are here:
“Always report any incident you perceive as motivated by hate to An Garda Síochána.
In an emergency you must call 999.
You will be attended to by a Garda who will record your statement.
He/She will commence an investigation, by gathering evidence – taking statements from victim(s) and witnesses, and apprehending the accused.
There are two hundred Ethnic Liaison Gardaí appointed, who are trained to deal with such type of crime and will assist you in the course of the investigation, if you so wish. You can request the services of your local appointed Garda Ethnic Liaison Officer(s) at any stage of the investigation – (Please refer to Garda Website for their contact details).
Should you not wish to attend your local Garda station, you can seek the services of the Garda National Diversity & Integration Unit (Phone: 01 6663150 or email: email@example.com), who will deal with the report in a most sensitised manner.
You will be kept informed of developments throughout the investigation.
You will be offered a choice to be referred to victim support.
Should you require further information about hate crime, please contact the staff at the Garda National Diversity & Integration Unit (01 6663150 or firstname.lastname@example.org) – who will deal with any query on this”
Cumann na Daoine’s LGBT+ Youth Cafe’s Great Big Creative Project had to be postponed due to Covid19. We’re looking forward to bringing this back to life in September – if you know of young people who would like to be involved, please contact Hayley on 0879890336 or at email@example.com and we’ll keep you posted!
In other local news, we’re looking at celebrating Youghal Pride by the Sea with a small beach event in September.It will be chance for us to see each other again and we’re already looking at making Youghal Pride by the Sea 2021 bigger and better than ever!
We’re asking you to send us short video clips of yourselves, letting us know why Pride is important to you. Thanks to those who’ve submitted them already – and looking forward t0 getting more! They can be sent either by email to firstname.lastname@example.org or via WhatsApp to 0879890336.
A Message from BeLonGTo LGBT Youth Services:
This time last year, we were gathering rainbow flags and brightly coloured t-shirts, preparing to bring some 500 LGBTI+ young people from across Ireland together to march in Dublin Pride together with Youth Work Ireland. For many of those young people, this would be the first time they witnessed the powerful support of allies and the magical connection of community.
Pride may look very different this year, but that does not mean we can’t come together as a community.
Working with Youth Work Ireland, we are #BringingPrideHome for over 500 LGBTI+ young people across Ireland. A campaign like this would not be possible without our amazing supporters – and thanks to the artist Aodh Quigley for designing the beautiful graphic you can see below.
We have created an incredible Pride Self Care Pack so young people can mark Pride 2020 at home and know that around Ireland, their LGBTI+ friends will be wearing the same t-shirt, masks and badges from their homes.
Each pack contains a t-shirt with a once-off design by artist Timur Aldemir, from Creatives Against COVID-19, rainbow facemasks, badges, some sweet treats, a Dublin Pride Booklet and a guide about minding your mental health.
This sends a powerful messaging letting LGBTI+ youth know that they are not alone. However you mark Pride this year, know that we are there for you. We are in this together.
This is a Pride month like no other and one we certainly will not forget. While we can’t march together this year, we have been working hard to ensure that LGBTI+ youth feel the spirit of Pride and a sense of community.
#BringingPrideHome to over 500 LGBTI+ young people nationwide with Youth Work Ireland by delivering Pride Self-Care Packs.
Hosting Pride pizza parties by delivering pizza to our members so we could share food and good times during our virtual Youth Groups.
Laughing a lot during our virtual Pride makeup tutorial for LGBTI+ youth which we ran alongside EPIC.
Delivering online training to professionals letting them know how to be an allyto the LGBTI+ community not just during Pride, but everyday.
Reinventing how kids learn the colours of the rainbow through this educational animation Remember the Rainbow created with In The Company of Huskies.
In Pride, BeLonGTo
A Message from TENI
(Transgender Equality Network Ireland)
Pride will be very different this year, but we’re still celebrating. Here’s what we’re up to!
Super Women Project
TENI, with the help of the Social Innovation Fund Ireland, is proud to introduce our Super Women – Empowering Trans Women into the Workplace project!
This programme will help trans women and trans feminine people to overcome barriers that prevent them from accessing work or reaching their full potential in employment. Through personal and professional development, mentoring and linking in with employers, our Super Women project will help to address both internal and external barriers to accessing work.
If you’re interested in taking part in the programme, which will be delivered in a series of online modules, please fill out this short survey!
If you have any questions about the Super Women programme, please contact email@example.com.
Family Support Groups
Peer Support Groups
LITURGÍA | CHRIS HINOJOSA
25th June – 18th July 2020 | A4 Sounds Gallery
Chris Hinojosa (Mija Hinojosa) is the recipient of our artist in residence award in partnership with Create: National Development Agency for Collaborative Arts, TENI and consulting artists Gender.RIP.
Liturgía invites audiences to partake in dialogues around trans identities, trauma, and insists in performance as a method for centering, archiving and transmitting repressed histories.
No booking required!
This event will also be live streamed on Youtube, Facebook and Instagram.
Liturgía is kindly supported by Arts Council Ireland’s Art Grant Funding 2020.
You can find out more information about A4 Sound’s Artist in Residence programme here.
Pride Guides & Rebel Dykes
Clonmel & Tipperary Pride
Global Pride 2020
Rebel Dykes Films
Mental Health Webinar from Under the Rainbow
LGBT Ireland & Youghal’s Own Pride Plans
LGBT IRELAND PRIDE EVENT
LGBT Ireland are extremely excited to be hosting an inclusive healthcare online event with the Irish Nurses & Midwives Organisation. The event poster is below so you can see what’s on the agenda, and the registration link is below too – this event is open to everyone, and you can drop in and out for the sessions which interest you.
PICTURES FOR PRIDE
Secondly, the HSE Choir have agreed to create two online videos for LGBT Ireland and the LGBT Champions programme during the event breaks, which we will incorporate into future delivery of the LGBT Champions Training Programme – we’ve seen some samples of their work and it is really lovely – the vocals are all recorded remotely and knitted together by an editing wizard, with a montage of photos from LGBT Ireland’s work and the Champions Network
Youghal Pride Video
Delighted to have received our first video for Youghal Pride by the Sea 2020! Please send your 10 second clip by WhatsApp to 0879890336 or by email to
Today: Future Plans and Past History
Youghal Pride by the Sea: Online Plans!
It’s Pride month, and though we can’t start planning Youghal Pride by the Sea yet this year, let’s make something that shows our Pride and that we can share online!
The Roots of Pride
The Stonewall riots (also referred to as the Stonewall uprising or the Stonewall rebellion) were a series of spontaneous, violent demonstrations by members of the gay (LGBT) community in response to a police raid and ongoing police intimidation that began in the early morning hours of June 28, 1969, at the Stonewall Inn in the Greenwich Village area of New York city. Patrons of the Stonewall, other Village lesbian and gay bars, and neighbourhood street people fought back when the police became violent. The riots are widely considered to constitute one of the most important events leading to the gay liberation movement. Here are some links about Sylvia Ray Rivera, trans activist who was active in that rebellion.
Want to learn more about your LGBT his/herstories?
Look out for Cumann na Daoine’s LGBT+ History Course later this year!
Older LGBT Voices
Supporting older LGBT+ people is an important part of Cumann na Daoine’s work, and in the coming months we’ll be conducting a piece of research into the needs of our older community members in the East Cork area, to tie into work being conducted in other parts of the country.
An Open Letter received from Dr. Francesca Farina of the Global Brain Health Institute in Dublin is a wonderful roadmap for how LGBT+ seniors in Ireland can achieve
the support needed to age well, safely and with dignity. We need to look at ways we can advocate for the implementation of these actions.
Something for the weekend…
Just a reminder – do get in touch if you’d like to take part in a Zoom Coffee Morning, you can contact Hayley on 0879890336 or at firstname.lastname@example.org.
As well as this, we’re planning an LGBT+ History course for the autumn – some online sessions coupled with social distanced activities. It’s exciting to be looking forward, and this course will be lots of fun!
For this weekend, here are two films:
Another Country While it’s a little hard to follow the arcane hierarchies of 1930’s British public schools, this story of Burgess and Maclean (the Cambridge spies) holds up well and has the lovely Rupert Everett in the lead role.
And a timeless classic…
Fried Green Tomatoes at the Whistle Stop Cafe
“…amongst the gentle flow of its Sapphic currents, the film is a tribute to enduring sisterhood”.
And for the dancing…a playlist from the beautiful Sylvester
Ways to get together while staying apart
We’d like to start up some Zoom Coffee Mornings / Afternoons, and I’d love to know how many of ye would be interested in taking part? We’re also hoping to provide IT training for anyone who needs it. Do you have other ideas of how we can meet as a community while social distancing is in place?
We are also looking at Youghal Pride by the Sea 2020 and how we can make that happen within social distancing guidelines. Many Prides in the country are creating ‘virtual events’ and that’s certainly a possibility…would you be interested in helping make this happen? Youghal Pride by the Sea has joined the International Pride Network so there will be help, promotion and support on hand!
Please get in touch with Hayley at email@example.com or on 0879890336 to say what you’d like to be involved in, and what you’d like to see happen for the LGBT+ community in Youghal and East Cork/West Waterford over the coming months.
BeLonG To Youth Services: LGBTI+ Life in Lockdown
We want to really understand what life is like for LGBTI+ youth in lockdown so we can best support their needs at this time. The survey is for LGBTI+ young people between 14-23 and takes approximately 10 minutes to complete. We hope that through the survey we will gain an insight into the experiences of LGBTI+ youth during the COVID-19 pandemic, and in turn provide them with support services to match their needs.
Happy Anniversary – 5 years since Marriage Equality
The Thirty-fourth Amendment of the Constitution (Marriage Equality) Act 2015 amended the Constitution of Ireland to permit marriage to be contracted by two persons without distinction as to their sex. Prior to the enactment, the Constitution was assumed to contain an implicit prohibition on same-sex marriage in the Republic of Ireland It was approved at a referendum on 22 May 2015 by 62% of voters on a turnout of 61%. This was the first time that a state legalised same-sex marriage through a popular vote. Two legal challenges regarding the conduct of the referendum were dismissed on 30 July by the Court of Appeal, and the bill was signed into law by the President of Ireland on 29 August An amendment to the Marriage Act 2015 provided for marriages permitted by the new constititional status. The act came into force on 16 November 2015; the first same-sex marriage ceremony was held on 17 November 2015
With an amazingly high turn out of voters, including people young and old returning to the country to vote, a resounding Yes came from all constituencies except one. This Amendment did away with the previous Civil Partnership scheme and opened the way to the completion of Guardianship Rights for Same Sex Families.
The Yes Equality campaign brought communities together, with door-to-door canvassing creating great positivity and inspiring the huge turnout.
MAY 17TH: IDAHOT DAY 2020
Events around the world https://may17.org/events-announced-on-all-continents-for-may-17-idahotb-idahobit-2020/
2. INTO teachers IDAHOT Day competition for students https://www.into.ie/about/our-structure/associated-groups/into-lgbt-teachers-group/dfsl-competition/
3. History of IDAHOT Day:
The International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia is observed on May 17 and aims to coordinate international events that raise awareness of LGBT rights violations and stimulate interest in LGBT rights work worldwide. By 2016, the commemorations had taken place in 132 countries across the globe.[The founders of the International Day Against Homophobia, as it was originally known, established the IDAHO Committee to coordinate grassroots actions in different countries, to promote the day and to lobby for official recognition on May 17. That date was chosen to commemorate the decision to remove homosexuality from the International Classification of Diseases of the World Health organisation (WHO) in 1990.For a long time in Germany, May 17 had been unofficially labelled as a “Gay Day.” Written in the date format 17.5., it had a natural affinity with Paragraph 175 of the Penal Code, the rule dealing with homosexuality (homosexuals were called “one hundred seventy-fivers”).
The day, as a concept, was conceived in 2004. A year-long campaign culminated in the first International Day Against Homophobia on May 17, 2005. 24,000 individuals as well as organizations such as the International Lesbian and Gay Association (ILGA), the International Gay and Lesbian Human Rights Commission (IGLHRC), the World Congress of LGBT Jews and the Coalition of African Lesbians signed an appeal to support the “IDAHO initiative”. Activities for the day took place in many countries, including the first LGBT events ever to take place in the Congo, China, and Bulgaria.
In 2009, transphobia was added to the name of the campaign, and activities that year focused primarily on transphobia (violence and discrimination against transgender people). A new petition was launched in cooperation with LGBT organisations in 2009, and it was supported by more than 300 NGOs from 75 countries, as well as three Nobel Prize winners (Elfriede Jelinek, Francois Barre-Sinoussi and Luc Monatgnier) On the eve of May 17, 2009, France became the first country in the world to officially remove transgender issues from its list of mental illnesses.
The main purpose of the May 17 mobilisations is to raise awareness of violence, discrimination, and repression of LGBT communities worldwide, which in turn provides an opportunity to take action and engage in dialogue with the media, policymakers, public opinion, and wider civil society.
One of the stated goals of May 17 is to create an event that can be visible at a global level without needing to conform to a specific type of action. This decentralised approach is needed due to the diversity of social, religious, cultural, and political contexts in which rights violations occur.
If you can take an action this Sunday, May 17th – maybe fly a flag in your window, make a post on social media – we’d love to see a photo! You can share it to our pages @cumannnadaoine and/or @LGBT Youghal Network on facebook!
Gay Community News:
a great resource
GCN (Gay Community News) has been supported the LGBTQI+ community of Ireland for over 30 years, and in the current times is continuing to deliver all sorts of online supports, groups, watch parties and more…check them out on facebook or on their main site at
Here’s a few tasters of what’s on offer.
Also – if you haven’t already – check out Panti Bliss – Panti is a firm supporter of our wide community (you may remember her Noble Call during the marriage referendum) and she’s has been making some fantastic videos and posts…check her out here
And we may not be able to disco at the moment – so let’s dance around the house!
Wishing you all a happy May Day…
Becka playing flugelhorn over the Calder Valley, West Yorkshire (near the home of Anne Lister…)
Video by Mel Fox. For more of Becka’s brass, find her on facebook @phatbrass trumpet
BeLonGTo LGBT Youth Services:
Youth groups now online!
BeLonGTo’s Youth Work Team are working tirelessly – offering one-to-one sessions over phone, email and text for LGBTI+ young people who are facing increased levels of anxiety and stress
These groups offer a space for LGBTI+ young people to connect with their peers, have some fun, feel a sense of community and get the support they need from our expert Youth Workers. The groups will take place every week and offer LGBTI+ young people a welcome break from COVID-19.
The online groups are open to any LGBTI+ young people between 13 and 24 years who have been accessing our groups. Please help us spread the word. Thank you for all of your support, which allows us to continue our work helping LGBTI+ young people stay alive and thrive.
Stay safe, Moninne (she/her), CEO, BeLonGTo
Statement from Dublin Pride
I hope you are all keeping well. Unfortunately due to the ongoing Covid 19 crisis it is now clear that it will not be possible to hold our annual Pride Parade and March. Please see below our official statement. Over the coming weeks we’ll be confirming details for our new Digital Dublin Pride Festival.
Statement – Wednesday 29/04/2020
It is with great regret that Dublin LGBTQ Pride has decided to cancel our annual Pride Parade for 2020. Although we had initially postponed the Parade until September, we feel the scale of one of the largest events in the country would place unnecessary pressure on essential frontline services and resources that will have been at full stretch for many months. When we chose “In This Together” as our theme for 2020, we knew it was not just a phrase, but a responsibility. A responsibility to act in the best interests of all our communities, to react to changing circumstances and to support our frontline workers.
Dublin Pride is the largest fundraising event of the year for many LGBTI+ community organisations and charities in Ireland. Even though we won’t be together on O’Connell Street we know that won’t stop us all coming together to support our community and the vital services they provide, often to our most vulnerable members…So, we’re still going to see you in June, and you’ll definitely see us, as we host the first Digital Dublin Pride Festival with a fully interactive virtual Pride Parade and a Pride Concert. Buildings will still light up for Pride, flags will be flying high across the city and our community will still be there to support each other. Pride isn’t cancelled, we’re just bringing it home.
Visit dublinpride.ie to find out more about our Digital Pride Festival and the ways you can continue to support your LGBTI+ community and organisations.
Some ways to connect…and info on FLAC legislation
Happy Lesbian Visibility Week!
IN AND OUT: AN EVENING OF LIVE MUSIC
LGBT Ireland and FLAC providing support for families in lead up to commencement of parts 2 & 3 of the CFRA
Acts 2 and 3 of the CFRA commence on May 4, which will be the first time the Irish state will recognise same-sex couples as parents on birth certificates.
Parts 2 & 3 of the Child and Family Relationships Act (CFRA) 2015 will commence on May 4 2020. It will allow certain same-sex female parents to be legally recognised as co-parents of their children.
There are two different scenarios covered depending on the date of conception:
For a child conceived after the 4th May 2020:
The Donor Assisted Human Reproduction (DAHR) procedure must have been undertaken in a DAHR facility in Ireland using a traceable sperm donor. Both parents can be registered in these cases through the Registrar as normal with the provision of a certificate from the clinic
For a child conceived prior to the 4th May 2020:
The DAHR procedure may have been undertaken in a DAHR facility in Ireland OR abroad using an anonymous OR traceable sperm donor. However, in these cases a Declaration of Parentage is required from Court, to enable both parents to be registered on the child’s birth certificate at re-registration.
The legalities of this are complex and to help families understand the intricacies, LGBT Ireland and FLAC have collaborated to create a FAQ sheet.
LGBT Ireland and FLAC’s FAQ sheet answers everything from procedures on donor gametes in storage, to applying for declaration of parentage.
The full FAQ can be found on LGBT Ireland’s website along with a recording of their online information briefing.
Families are urged to contact their solicitor for advice on specific cases.
Speaking about the commencement of Parts 2 & 3 of the CFRA, CEO of LGBT Ireland Paula Fagan told GCN that while it is a positive step, it is “deeply problematic in the sense that it’s very, very prescribed.
“So in the absence of legislation, for example, known donors aren’t covered retrospectively. So if you’ve already are pregnant already with a known donor, you can’t avail of these provisions. So that’s very difficult for people.
“Because there was an absence of regulation and a lot of people thought that it was better for a child to have a known donor that they could know or at least know their biology if you like.
“So they made that decision in the best intentions for their children and they’re not covered.”
While the commencement of Part 2 & 3 of the CFRA does not treat all families as equal, it does give a clearer sense of the Irish criteria which clinics in Ireland can adhere to in order for both parents to be registered on the birth certificate of their child.
Solicitors say that further legislation is required to ensure all parents and children are protected in the myriad of ways LGBT+ families are formed.
Fagan said that while they continue to work towards an Ireland where all families are equal, May 4, will be “quite a historic moment for Ireland.
“For the first time, there will be a regulation in Ireland that says, same-sex parents are recognised in the State on the birth registration as two parents.”
Fagan is hopeful that there may be knock-on effects for same-sex parents not initially covered because while it “doesn’t cover everyone, it does set the scene.”
If you have any doubts about whether the legislation applies to you, you should contact your solicitor if you have access or alternatively you can contact FLAC on Lo-Call 1890 350 250 or 01-8745690
If you are in need of emotional support you can call the National LGBT Helpline on Lo-Call 1890 929 539 or chat online at http://lgbt.ie
An Garda Síochána – Diversity and Integration Strategy 2019-2021
An Garda Síochána have produced their Diversity and Integration Strategy 2019-2021, the strategy also coincides with the introduction by An Garda Síochána of a `working definition of hate crime` to ensure that their Policing Plan commitment of delivering a victim-centred policing service, focussed on keeping people safe, protecting the most vulnerable and providing a consistently high standard of service is met. This strategy is based upon five strategic principles, wherein organisational objectives are established and achievable outcomes identified to permit monitoring of the strategy, internally and independently.
Read the full Diversity and Integration Strategy 2019-2021 https://www.garda.ie/en/crime-prevention/community-engagement/community-engagement-offices/garda-national-diversity-integration-unit/diversity-and-integration-strategy-2019-2021-english-v1-1.pdf
For a full list of ELO LGBT officers see here: national-contact-details-for-elo-lgbt-officers
LGBT Ireland http://www.lgbt.ie have a wealth of information on this and other matters on their site.
Hate Crimes: Any criminal offence which is perceived by the victim or any other person to, in whole or in part, be motivated by hostility or prejudice, based on actual or perceived age, disability, race, colour, nationality, ethnicity, religion, sexual orientation or gender.
Hate Incidents: Any non-crime incident which is perceived by any person to, in whole or in part, be motivated by hostility or prejudice, based on actual or perceived age, disability, race, colour, nationality, ethnicity, religion, sexual orientation or gender.
And some music for ye all…https://youtu.be/TAHJx8IrkNE
The Youghal LGBT+ Network started up in 2017 to bring together LGBT+ people from East Cork and West Waterford, and to host events and activities to help build our community here. Over the past few years we’ve run Pop Up Cafes at Cumann na Daoine’s Community Café – we were about to start Teatime Cafes just before Covid19 – and the Network was very involved in bringing Youghal Pride by the Sea into existence in 2018, again in 2019 and…albeit delayed by the current situation – in September 2020. We’d like to get more people involved, especially at the moment when we’re all isolated and having to stay at home. We have a WhatsApp group too, and if you’d like to join that, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or call/text 098 9890336.
With links to LGBT Ireland, LINC and the Gay Project in Cork and TENI, we have access to a lot of extra supports, information and ideas – so come along and join us! You can find us on facebook too, at LGBT+ Youghal Network.
When these challenging times are over, we’ll be meeting again – so if you have ideas for what would you’d like to see happen, do get in touch!
A message from Cork Pride
“We hope everyone is safe and well at this challenging time.
Since the COVID-19 outbreak, The Cork LGBT+ Pride committee have been monitoring HSE and Government updates and meeting regularly to discuss how it will affect the festival for 2020.Our usual dates of July 26th-August 2nd are less likely to be feasible for this year.
Therefore, we have made the decision to change Cork LGBT+ Pride Festival 2020 dates to Saturday September 19th to Saturday September 26th, with the parade taking place on the 26th. We are confident that this is the best decision for the health and well-being of our community, as well as for the success of the festival in 2020”.
Youghal Pride by the Sea will (provisionally) take place on
September 19th 2020.
This is a new Facebook online community from LGBT Ireland. It’s a self-help and mutual support space for Older members of the Irish LGBT Community to connect and make the most of our diverse community during this period of uncertainty. Check it out now!
BeLonGTo is the national LGBT+ Youth Service.
“Our face to face services are closed as a precautionary measure to protect staff & community from the risk of COVID-19 virus. We are still providing a number of services remotely
We will be providing Monday Chats for information, referral and advice by phone, email and SMS. You can make an appointment with a Youth Worker here https://bit.ly/38QmWJs
Our Crisis Counselling Service with Pieta House, Preventing Suicide and Self Harm will continue to operate on a digital basis. If you are a client, our therapist, Nash will be in touch with you directly to provide more information to you.
Take care of one another More information is available on our website https://bit.ly/2IMQBsg “
YOUGHAL LGBT+ NETWORK
Due to Covid19, our Teatime Cafes are on hold…we have a Facebook page @LGBT+ Youghal Network and a WhatsApp group – if you’d like to get involved call Hayley on 0879890336.
Cork Gay Project are on facebook too and are offering a variety of Zoom / online activities where men can keep in touch with each other. Check them out!
LINC – Lesbians in Cork – are offering another wide range of online / interactive groups to see us through the crisis. All LBT women welcome!
And…let’s dance away our worries for a while with…