COMING OUT – WHAT DOES IT MEAN?
Coming Out is the term used by lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people to describe their experience of discovery, self-acceptance, openness and honesty about their LGBT identity and their decision to disclose, i.e. to share this with others when and how they choose. While coming out can be a challenging time most people get a positive and supportive response from family and friends and feel happy that they made the decision to come out. You can read more online about coming out by clicking on the links on the right hand side of this page or you can download one of the useful documents listed.
People come out at all ages and in different ways. We can be out to a few people in our lives, everybody in our lives or somewhere in-between. Throughout our lives who we are out to may change depending on our circumstances. The families of lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender people often feel that they too must come out and this can cause stress and worry. If you are a family member of a lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender person and you feel you need support, please see our section on families.
People in straight presenting relationships may also come out as lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender. This can be a very difficult and confusing time for them and they may have concerns about the impact this can have on their spouse/partner and/or children. LGBT Ireland helpline volunteers are trained to listen and provide support to people dealing with this situation.
Stages of Coming Out
- Stage 1 Discovery – this is where you start to question if you might be lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender because of feelings you’re having.
- Stage 2 Acceptance – this is when you start to accept that you are lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender. Telling the first person is a sign of acceptance.
- Stage 3 Integration – this is when you begin to get comfortable expressing your lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender identity and living your life accordingly.
Everyone’s experience of discovering their LGBT identity is different as is their experience of the stages of coming out. It is normal to experience feelings of anxiety and worry especially in relation to how people might react when you tell them. Having someone to talk to and getting emotional support can help you deal with the stresses of coming out. Most people tell a friend before telling their family but some people call a helpline or a professional like their GP before telling friends and family. Most people feel a weight is lifted off their shoulders after they come out and feel relieved.
Whoever you are or whatever your circumstances, coming out can be both challenging and rewarding. Research has shown that regardless of how well the experience of coming out goes for people, the period prior to coming out can be a time of significant stress. But research also shows that despite the stress and worry people can experience before telling someone for the first time, most people say that telling people went well for them and that they are happier after coming out to family, friends and colleagues. What seems to make a difference is having support from someone who you feel you can confide in – whether it’s a trusted friend or family member, a helpline volunteer or a professional.
There is a lot of support available across Ireland for people who are coming out. You can see what is available in your area by looking by clicking on the map or you will find a list of support organisations here. If you’d like to speak to someone about coming out you can call LGBT Ireland’s helpline on 1890 929 539 and speak to one of our volunteers in confidence.
Heart To Heart – Our Coming Out video
FOR HELP AND SUPPORT, VISIT
And a little Diana Ross for you…’I’m Coming Out’
PARENTAL RIGHTS FOR LGBT+ FAMILIES IMPROVED
SUPPORT FOR LGBT+ COMMUNTIIES
LGBT+ Youth Supports
The past few months have been a difficult time for LGBTI+ young people, with 93% telling BeLonG To they have experienced stress, anxiety and depression during lockdown.
In order to respond to the needs of this vulnerable group, BeLonG To rapidly moved their specialised support services online, offering one-to-one support over text, phone and email. Additionally, they moved their Youth Groups online and invited existing members to join via Zoom.
“Today I am pleased to let you know that from this week BeLonG To are opening a new online service and reopening their frontline services.
New Virtual LGBTI+ Youth Group
On Monday July 20th, we will launch our first online group for new LGBTI+ young people between 14 and 23. The group will run for 4-weeks and take place every Monday from 3-4pm. Join our friendly Youth Workers to meet other LGBTI+ young people, for an introduction to BeLonG To, Pride history and fun and games. Sign up here https://belongtoyouthservices.cmail19.com/t/i-l-xkljjud-jjdhddklii-r/. to join the group. Help us spread the word and let LGBTI+ young people in your life know about this new service.
Reopening of Frontline Service
Our Youth Workers are now facilitating weekly face-to-face peer support groups at our HQ in Dublin. These groups are open by invitation to LGBTI+ youth who are not out at home and cannot access online services. We have undertaken a number of measures to limit the risk of Covid-19, to staff and young people and feel safe and supported to open up limited frontline services again.
Our digital support services and digital youth groups will continue to run online, over phone and email. We are dedicated to supporting LGBTI+ young people during this time and will keep you updated.”
Moninne (she/her): CEO, BeLonG To Youth Services
Youghal Pride by the Sea 2020
Youghal Pride by the Sea will be a smaller but entirely beautiful event this year: a beach picnic with music (bring your own picnic!) on Sunday September 20th, 4-6pm on The Strand. We will have some music but this event is primarily to bring us together (while socially distancing on the beach) and to celebrate in good company. More details soon!
TENI appoint new CEO
On Saturday evening as part of our Gender Recognition 5 Years on programme, TENI was delighted to announce the appointment of Éirénne Carroll as our new Chief Executive Officer (CEO). Éirénne will join the TENI team in coming months.
Éirénne comes to TENI with an extensive history in launching and leading non-profit initiatives across the globe. She has worked in Kolkata, India creating a homeless to housed and educated program. In Pokhara, Nepal she has worked with leading a drug rehabilitation centre for homeless children. In the United States she has worked on refugee resettlement teams, with at-risk youth and in education and marketing development of schools.
Most importantly she has worked on LGBTQ+ advocacy projects and transgender equality programming. She was foundational to starting The Trans Love Project, an organisation that exists to spread funds to smaller, underfunded trans non-profits in the US that support advocacy and youth programming.
She has also worked on journalism articles combating state level anti-trans legislation that have been published in the Huffington Post, The Durham Herald Sun, and the Denton Record Chronicle. These pieces dismantled anti-trans tropes and stereotypes and helped grassroots organisations overturn or stop the passing of bathroom laws, and restrictions to medical care. In her former work she also was responsible for running multiple philanthropic events that would host up to 60,000 people to celebrate Pride and raise funding for LGBT Centres in her state.
All in all, Éirénne is bringing a tenacity to TENI that she sees continuing to expand the educational work of the organisation which will enhance advocacy, and build strong collaborations with other organisations in Ireland and across the world.
Commenting on the appointment, TENI Chair Sara R Phillips said, “After a comprehensive and intensive hiring process, we are delighted to announce Éirénne’s appointment as the next Chief Executive Officer of TENI. Éirénne brings a new vibrancy to the TENI team, with extensive knowledge in running not for profit programmes throughout the world and central to community organisation in North Carolina. She will be a great addition to our already strong team. The Board look forward to supporting Éirénne and the TENI team in implementing our 3-year strategic plan and creating an Ireland where all people, regardless of their gender identity or expression can enjoy full acceptance, equality and human rights.”
Éirénne commenting on her appointment said, “I am humbled and ecstatic to be joining the work of TENI. From their staff to board they have been passionate leaders across Ireland and have been fundamental in creating a progressive Ireland that is a world leader in transgender rights and equality. However, that doesn’t mean the work is over. I look forward to working on broader education initiatives that will protect and aid transgender children and transgender employees. I am also passionate about pushing forward full recognition for our non-binary and intersex friends, family and colleagues. I envision achieving the long-term goal of an Ireland where transgender people are not just accepted but are thriving, welcomed and supported in every single way. I believe and am ready to get to work for creating an Ireland that will be an international beacon of what true inclusion of diversity looks like.”
TENI (Transgender Equality Network Ireland):
TENI is a non-profit organisation supporting the trans community in Ireland. Our vision is a world where all people, regardless of gender identity or expression, enjoy full acceptance, equality and human rights. Through support, education, advocacy and community development, TENI seeks to advance the rights and equality, and improve the lives of trans people and their families.
Sara R Phillips, TENI Chair
E mail: firstname.lastname@example.org
LGBT & Dementia
Starting conversations about the experience of LGBT people with dementia: and exploring ways that the specific needs and challenges faced by LGBT people with dementia can be better supported.
Here is some reading material – so our conversations can be more informed.
Reporting Hate Crime
No-one should have to undergo homophobic or racist abuse. If this happens to you, there are supports available and if you can, please report it to the Gardai. The more we report hate crime, the more evidence we have to enact Hate Crime legislation!
You can get information here: https://lgbt.ie/get-information/harassment-and-violence/
and details on how to report are here:
“Always report any incident you perceive as motivated by hate to An Garda Síochána.
In an emergency you must call 999.
You will be attended to by a Garda who will record your statement.
He/She will commence an investigation, by gathering evidence – taking statements from victim(s) and witnesses, and apprehending the accused.
There are two hundred Ethnic Liaison Gardaí appointed, who are trained to deal with such type of crime and will assist you in the course of the investigation, if you so wish. You can request the services of your local appointed Garda Ethnic Liaison Officer(s) at any stage of the investigation – (Please refer to Garda Website for their contact details).
Should you not wish to attend your local Garda station, you can seek the services of the Garda National Diversity & Integration Unit (Phone: 01 6663150 or email: email@example.com), who will deal with the report in a most sensitised manner.
You will be kept informed of developments throughout the investigation.
You will be offered a choice to be referred to victim support.
Should you require further information about hate crime, please contact the staff at the Garda National Diversity & Integration Unit (01 6663150 or firstname.lastname@example.org) – who will deal with any query on this”
Cumann na Daoine’s LGBT+ Youth Cafe’s Great Big Creative Project had to be postponed due to Covid19. We’re looking forward to bringing this back to life in September – if you know of young people who would like to be involved, please contact Hayley on 0879890336 or at email@example.com and we’ll keep you posted!
In other local news, we’re looking at celebrating Youghal Pride by the Sea with a small beach event in September.It will be chance for us to see each other again and we’re already looking at making Youghal Pride by the Sea 2021 bigger and better than ever!
We’re asking you to send us short video clips of yourselves, letting us know why Pride is important to you. Thanks to those who’ve submitted them already – and looking forward t0 getting more! They can be sent either by email to firstname.lastname@example.org or via WhatsApp to 0879890336.
A Message from BeLonGTo LGBT Youth Services:
This time last year, we were gathering rainbow flags and brightly coloured t-shirts, preparing to bring some 500 LGBTI+ young people from across Ireland together to march in Dublin Pride together with Youth Work Ireland. For many of those young people, this would be the first time they witnessed the powerful support of allies and the magical connection of community.
Pride may look very different this year, but that does not mean we can’t come together as a community.
Working with Youth Work Ireland, we are #BringingPrideHome for over 500 LGBTI+ young people across Ireland. A campaign like this would not be possible without our amazing supporters – and thanks to the artist Aodh Quigley for designing the beautiful graphic you can see below.
We have created an incredible Pride Self Care Pack so young people can mark Pride 2020 at home and know that around Ireland, their LGBTI+ friends will be wearing the same t-shirt, masks and badges from their homes.
Each pack contains a t-shirt with a once-off design by artist Timur Aldemir, from Creatives Against COVID-19, rainbow facemasks, badges, some sweet treats, a Dublin Pride Booklet and a guide about minding your mental health.
This sends a powerful messaging letting LGBTI+ youth know that they are not alone. However you mark Pride this year, know that we are there for you. We are in this together.
This is a Pride month like no other and one we certainly will not forget. While we can’t march together this year, we have been working hard to ensure that LGBTI+ youth feel the spirit of Pride and a sense of community.
#BringingPrideHome to over 500 LGBTI+ young people nationwide with Youth Work Ireland by delivering Pride Self-Care Packs.
Hosting Pride pizza parties by delivering pizza to our members so we could share food and good times during our virtual Youth Groups.
Laughing a lot during our virtual Pride makeup tutorial for LGBTI+ youth which we ran alongside EPIC.
Delivering online training to professionals letting them know how to be an allyto the LGBTI+ community not just during Pride, but everyday.
Reinventing how kids learn the colours of the rainbow through this educational animation Remember the Rainbow created with In The Company of Huskies.
In Pride, BeLonGTo
A Message from TENI
(Transgender Equality Network Ireland)
Pride will be very different this year, but we’re still celebrating. Here’s what we’re up to!
Super Women Project
TENI, with the help of the Social Innovation Fund Ireland, is proud to introduce our Super Women – Empowering Trans Women into the Workplace project!
This programme will help trans women and trans feminine people to overcome barriers that prevent them from accessing work or reaching their full potential in employment. Through personal and professional development, mentoring and linking in with employers, our Super Women project will help to address both internal and external barriers to accessing work.
If you’re interested in taking part in the programme, which will be delivered in a series of online modules, please fill out this short survey!
If you have any questions about the Super Women programme, please contact email@example.com.
Family Support Groups
Peer Support Groups
LITURGÍA | CHRIS HINOJOSA
25th June – 18th July 2020 | A4 Sounds Gallery
Chris Hinojosa (Mija Hinojosa) is the recipient of our artist in residence award in partnership with Create: National Development Agency for Collaborative Arts, TENI and consulting artists Gender.RIP.
Liturgía invites audiences to partake in dialogues around trans identities, trauma, and insists in performance as a method for centering, archiving and transmitting repressed histories.
No booking required!
This event will also be live streamed on Youtube, Facebook and Instagram.
Liturgía is kindly supported by Arts Council Ireland’s Art Grant Funding 2020.
You can find out more information about A4 Sound’s Artist in Residence programme here.
Pride Guides & Rebel Dykes
Clonmel & Tipperary Pride
Global Pride 2020
Rebel Dykes Films
Mental Health Webinar from Under the Rainbow
LGBT Ireland & Youghal’s Own Pride Plans
LGBT IRELAND PRIDE EVENT
LGBT Ireland are extremely excited to be hosting an inclusive healthcare online event with the Irish Nurses & Midwives Organisation. The event poster is below so you can see what’s on the agenda, and the registration link is below too – this event is open to everyone, and you can drop in and out for the sessions which interest you.
PICTURES FOR PRIDE
Secondly, the HSE Choir have agreed to create two online videos for LGBT Ireland and the LGBT Champions programme during the event breaks, which we will incorporate into future delivery of the LGBT Champions Training Programme – we’ve seen some samples of their work and it is really lovely – the vocals are all recorded remotely and knitted together by an editing wizard, with a montage of photos from LGBT Ireland’s work and the Champions Network
Youghal Pride Video
Delighted to have received our first video for Youghal Pride by the Sea 2020! Please send your 10 second clip by WhatsApp to 0879890336 or by email to
Today: Future Plans and Past History
Youghal Pride by the Sea: Online Plans!
It’s Pride month, and though we can’t start planning Youghal Pride by the Sea yet this year, let’s make something that shows our Pride and that we can share online!
The Roots of Pride
The Stonewall riots (also referred to as the Stonewall uprising or the Stonewall rebellion) were a series of spontaneous, violent demonstrations by members of the gay (LGBT) community in response to a police raid and ongoing police intimidation that began in the early morning hours of June 28, 1969, at the Stonewall Inn in the Greenwich Village area of New York city. Patrons of the Stonewall, other Village lesbian and gay bars, and neighbourhood street people fought back when the police became violent. The riots are widely considered to constitute one of the most important events leading to the gay liberation movement. Here are some links about Sylvia Ray Rivera, trans activist who was active in that rebellion.
Want to learn more about your LGBT his/herstories?
Look out for Cumann na Daoine’s LGBT+ History Course later this year!
Older LGBT Voices
Supporting older LGBT+ people is an important part of Cumann na Daoine’s work, and in the coming months we’ll be conducting a piece of research into the needs of our older community members in the East Cork area, to tie into work being conducted in other parts of the country.
An Open Letter received from Dr. Francesca Farina of the Global Brain Health Institute in Dublin is a wonderful roadmap for how LGBT+ seniors in Ireland can achieve
the support needed to age well, safely and with dignity. We need to look at ways we can advocate for the implementation of these actions.
Something for the weekend…
Just a reminder – do get in touch if you’d like to take part in a Zoom Coffee Morning, you can contact Hayley on 0879890336 or at firstname.lastname@example.org.
As well as this, we’re planning an LGBT+ History course for the autumn – some online sessions coupled with social distanced activities. It’s exciting to be looking forward, and this course will be lots of fun!
For this weekend, here are two films:
Another Country While it’s a little hard to follow the arcane hierarchies of 1930’s British public schools, this story of Burgess and Maclean (the Cambridge spies) holds up well and has the lovely Rupert Everett in the lead role.
And a timeless classic…
Fried Green Tomatoes at the Whistle Stop Cafe
“…amongst the gentle flow of its Sapphic currents, the film is a tribute to enduring sisterhood”.
And for the dancing…a playlist from the beautiful Sylvester
Ways to get together while staying apart
We’d like to start up some Zoom Coffee Mornings / Afternoons, and I’d love to know how many of ye would be interested in taking part? We’re also hoping to provide IT training for anyone who needs it. Do you have other ideas of how we can meet as a community while social distancing is in place?
We are also looking at Youghal Pride by the Sea 2020 and how we can make that happen within social distancing guidelines. Many Prides in the country are creating ‘virtual events’ and that’s certainly a possibility…would you be interested in helping make this happen? Youghal Pride by the Sea has joined the International Pride Network so there will be help, promotion and support on hand!
Please get in touch with Hayley at email@example.com or on 0879890336 to say what you’d like to be involved in, and what you’d like to see happen for the LGBT+ community in Youghal and East Cork/West Waterford over the coming months.
BeLonG To Youth Services: LGBTI+ Life in Lockdown
We want to really understand what life is like for LGBTI+ youth in lockdown so we can best support their needs at this time. The survey is for LGBTI+ young people between 14-23 and takes approximately 10 minutes to complete. We hope that through the survey we will gain an insight into the experiences of LGBTI+ youth during the COVID-19 pandemic, and in turn provide them with support services to match their needs.
Happy Anniversary – 5 years since Marriage Equality
The Thirty-fourth Amendment of the Constitution (Marriage Equality) Act 2015 amended the Constitution of Ireland to permit marriage to be contracted by two persons without distinction as to their sex. Prior to the enactment, the Constitution was assumed to contain an implicit prohibition on same-sex marriage in the Republic of Ireland It was approved at a referendum on 22 May 2015 by 62% of voters on a turnout of 61%. This was the first time that a state legalised same-sex marriage through a popular vote. Two legal challenges regarding the conduct of the referendum were dismissed on 30 July by the Court of Appeal, and the bill was signed into law by the President of Ireland on 29 August An amendment to the Marriage Act 2015 provided for marriages permitted by the new constititional status. The act came into force on 16 November 2015; the first same-sex marriage ceremony was held on 17 November 2015
With an amazingly high turn out of voters, including people young and old returning to the country to vote, a resounding Yes came from all constituencies except one. This Amendment did away with the previous Civil Partnership scheme and opened the way to the completion of Guardianship Rights for Same Sex Families.
The Yes Equality campaign brought communities together, with door-to-door canvassing creating great positivity and inspiring the huge turnout.
MAY 17TH: IDAHOT DAY 2020
Events around the world https://may17.org/events-announced-on-all-continents-for-may-17-idahotb-idahobit-2020/
2. INTO teachers IDAHOT Day competition for students https://www.into.ie/about/our-structure/associated-groups/into-lgbt-teachers-group/dfsl-competition/
3. History of IDAHOT Day:
The International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia is observed on May 17 and aims to coordinate international events that raise awareness of LGBT rights violations and stimulate interest in LGBT rights work worldwide. By 2016, the commemorations had taken place in 132 countries across the globe.[The founders of the International Day Against Homophobia, as it was originally known, established the IDAHO Committee to coordinate grassroots actions in different countries, to promote the day and to lobby for official recognition on May 17. That date was chosen to commemorate the decision to remove homosexuality from the International Classification of Diseases of the World Health organisation (WHO) in 1990.For a long time in Germany, May 17 had been unofficially labelled as a “Gay Day.” Written in the date format 17.5., it had a natural affinity with Paragraph 175 of the Penal Code, the rule dealing with homosexuality (homosexuals were called “one hundred seventy-fivers”).
The day, as a concept, was conceived in 2004. A year-long campaign culminated in the first International Day Against Homophobia on May 17, 2005. 24,000 individuals as well as organizations such as the International Lesbian and Gay Association (ILGA), the International Gay and Lesbian Human Rights Commission (IGLHRC), the World Congress of LGBT Jews and the Coalition of African Lesbians signed an appeal to support the “IDAHO initiative”. Activities for the day took place in many countries, including the first LGBT events ever to take place in the Congo, China, and Bulgaria.
In 2009, transphobia was added to the name of the campaign, and activities that year focused primarily on transphobia (violence and discrimination against transgender people). A new petition was launched in cooperation with LGBT organisations in 2009, and it was supported by more than 300 NGOs from 75 countries, as well as three Nobel Prize winners (Elfriede Jelinek, Francois Barre-Sinoussi and Luc Monatgnier) On the eve of May 17, 2009, France became the first country in the world to officially remove transgender issues from its list of mental illnesses.
The main purpose of the May 17 mobilisations is to raise awareness of violence, discrimination, and repression of LGBT communities worldwide, which in turn provides an opportunity to take action and engage in dialogue with the media, policymakers, public opinion, and wider civil society.
One of the stated goals of May 17 is to create an event that can be visible at a global level without needing to conform to a specific type of action. This decentralised approach is needed due to the diversity of social, religious, cultural, and political contexts in which rights violations occur.
If you can take an action this Sunday, May 17th – maybe fly a flag in your window, make a post on social media – we’d love to see a photo! You can share it to our pages @cumannnadaoine and/or @LGBT Youghal Network on facebook!
Gay Community News:
a great resource
GCN (Gay Community News) has been supported the LGBTQI+ community of Ireland for over 30 years, and in the current times is continuing to deliver all sorts of online supports, groups, watch parties and more…check them out on facebook or on their main site at
Here’s a few tasters of what’s on offer.
Also – if you haven’t already – check out Panti Bliss – Panti is a firm supporter of our wide community (you may remember her Noble Call during the marriage referendum) and she’s has been making some fantastic videos and posts…check her out here
And we may not be able to disco at the moment – so let’s dance around the house!
Wishing you all a happy May Day…
Becka playing flugelhorn over the Calder Valley, West Yorkshire (near the home of Anne Lister…)
Video by Mel Fox. For more of Becka’s brass, find her on facebook @phatbrass trumpet
BeLonGTo LGBT Youth Services:
Youth groups now online!
BeLonGTo’s Youth Work Team are working tirelessly – offering one-to-one sessions over phone, email and text for LGBTI+ young people who are facing increased levels of anxiety and stress
These groups offer a space for LGBTI+ young people to connect with their peers, have some fun, feel a sense of community and get the support they need from our expert Youth Workers. The groups will take place every week and offer LGBTI+ young people a welcome break from COVID-19.
The online groups are open to any LGBTI+ young people between 13 and 24 years who have been accessing our groups. Please help us spread the word. Thank you for all of your support, which allows us to continue our work helping LGBTI+ young people stay alive and thrive.
Stay safe, Moninne (she/her), CEO, BeLonGTo
Statement from Dublin Pride
I hope you are all keeping well. Unfortunately due to the ongoing Covid 19 crisis it is now clear that it will not be possible to hold our annual Pride Parade and March. Please see below our official statement. Over the coming weeks we’ll be confirming details for our new Digital Dublin Pride Festival.
Statement – Wednesday 29/04/2020
It is with great regret that Dublin LGBTQ Pride has decided to cancel our annual Pride Parade for 2020. Although we had initially postponed the Parade until September, we feel the scale of one of the largest events in the country would place unnecessary pressure on essential frontline services and resources that will have been at full stretch for many months. When we chose “In This Together” as our theme for 2020, we knew it was not just a phrase, but a responsibility. A responsibility to act in the best interests of all our communities, to react to changing circumstances and to support our frontline workers.
Dublin Pride is the largest fundraising event of the year for many LGBTI+ community organisations and charities in Ireland. Even though we won’t be together on O’Connell Street we know that won’t stop us all coming together to support our community and the vital services they provide, often to our most vulnerable members…So, we’re still going to see you in June, and you’ll definitely see us, as we host the first Digital Dublin Pride Festival with a fully interactive virtual Pride Parade and a Pride Concert. Buildings will still light up for Pride, flags will be flying high across the city and our community will still be there to support each other. Pride isn’t cancelled, we’re just bringing it home.
Visit dublinpride.ie to find out more about our Digital Pride Festival and the ways you can continue to support your LGBTI+ community and organisations.
Some ways to connect…and info on FLAC legislation
Happy Lesbian Visibility Week!
IN AND OUT: AN EVENING OF LIVE MUSIC
LGBT Ireland and FLAC providing support for families in lead up to commencement of parts 2 & 3 of the CFRA
Acts 2 and 3 of the CFRA commence on May 4, which will be the first time the Irish state will recognise same-sex couples as parents on birth certificates.
Parts 2 & 3 of the Child and Family Relationships Act (CFRA) 2015 will commence on May 4 2020. It will allow certain same-sex female parents to be legally recognised as co-parents of their children.
There are two different scenarios covered depending on the date of conception:
For a child conceived after the 4th May 2020:
The Donor Assisted Human Reproduction (DAHR) procedure must have been undertaken in a DAHR facility in Ireland using a traceable sperm donor. Both parents can be registered in these cases through the Registrar as normal with the provision of a certificate from the clinic
For a child conceived prior to the 4th May 2020:
The DAHR procedure may have been undertaken in a DAHR facility in Ireland OR abroad using an anonymous OR traceable sperm donor. However, in these cases a Declaration of Parentage is required from Court, to enable both parents to be registered on the child’s birth certificate at re-registration.
The legalities of this are complex and to help families understand the intricacies, LGBT Ireland and FLAC have collaborated to create a FAQ sheet.
LGBT Ireland and FLAC’s FAQ sheet answers everything from procedures on donor gametes in storage, to applying for declaration of parentage.
The full FAQ can be found on LGBT Ireland’s website along with a recording of their online information briefing.
Families are urged to contact their solicitor for advice on specific cases.
Speaking about the commencement of Parts 2 & 3 of the CFRA, CEO of LGBT Ireland Paula Fagan told GCN that while it is a positive step, it is “deeply problematic in the sense that it’s very, very prescribed.
“So in the absence of legislation, for example, known donors aren’t covered retrospectively. So if you’ve already are pregnant already with a known donor, you can’t avail of these provisions. So that’s very difficult for people.
“Because there was an absence of regulation and a lot of people thought that it was better for a child to have a known donor that they could know or at least know their biology if you like.
“So they made that decision in the best intentions for their children and they’re not covered.”
While the commencement of Part 2 & 3 of the CFRA does not treat all families as equal, it does give a clearer sense of the Irish criteria which clinics in Ireland can adhere to in order for both parents to be registered on the birth certificate of their child.
Solicitors say that further legislation is required to ensure all parents and children are protected in the myriad of ways LGBT+ families are formed.
Fagan said that while they continue to work towards an Ireland where all families are equal, May 4, will be “quite a historic moment for Ireland.
“For the first time, there will be a regulation in Ireland that says, same-sex parents are recognised in the State on the birth registration as two parents.”
Fagan is hopeful that there may be knock-on effects for same-sex parents not initially covered because while it “doesn’t cover everyone, it does set the scene.”
If you have any doubts about whether the legislation applies to you, you should contact your solicitor if you have access or alternatively you can contact FLAC on Lo-Call 1890 350 250 or 01-8745690
If you are in need of emotional support you can call the National LGBT Helpline on Lo-Call 1890 929 539 or chat online at http://lgbt.ie
An Garda Síochána – Diversity and Integration Strategy 2019-2021
An Garda Síochána have produced their Diversity and Integration Strategy 2019-2021, the strategy also coincides with the introduction by An Garda Síochána of a `working definition of hate crime` to ensure that their Policing Plan commitment of delivering a victim-centred policing service, focussed on keeping people safe, protecting the most vulnerable and providing a consistently high standard of service is met. This strategy is based upon five strategic principles, wherein organisational objectives are established and achievable outcomes identified to permit monitoring of the strategy, internally and independently.
Read the full Diversity and Integration Strategy 2019-2021 https://www.garda.ie/en/crime-prevention/community-engagement/community-engagement-offices/garda-national-diversity-integration-unit/diversity-and-integration-strategy-2019-2021-english-v1-1.pdf
For a full list of ELO LGBT officers see here: national-contact-details-for-elo-lgbt-officers
LGBT Ireland http://www.lgbt.ie have a wealth of information on this and other matters on their site.
Hate Crimes: Any criminal offence which is perceived by the victim or any other person to, in whole or in part, be motivated by hostility or prejudice, based on actual or perceived age, disability, race, colour, nationality, ethnicity, religion, sexual orientation or gender.
Hate Incidents: Any non-crime incident which is perceived by any person to, in whole or in part, be motivated by hostility or prejudice, based on actual or perceived age, disability, race, colour, nationality, ethnicity, religion, sexual orientation or gender.
And some music for ye all…https://youtu.be/TAHJx8IrkNE
The Youghal LGBT+ Network started up in 2017 to bring together LGBT+ people from East Cork and West Waterford, and to host events and activities to help build our community here. Over the past few years we’ve run Pop Up Cafes at Cumann na Daoine’s Community Café – we were about to start Teatime Cafes just before Covid19 – and the Network was very involved in bringing Youghal Pride by the Sea into existence in 2018, again in 2019 and…albeit delayed by the current situation – in September 2020. We’d like to get more people involved, especially at the moment when we’re all isolated and having to stay at home. We have a WhatsApp group too, and if you’d like to join that, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or call/text 098 9890336.
With links to LGBT Ireland, LINC and the Gay Project in Cork and TENI, we have access to a lot of extra supports, information and ideas – so come along and join us! You can find us on facebook too, at LGBT+ Youghal Network.
When these challenging times are over, we’ll be meeting again – so if you have ideas for what would you’d like to see happen, do get in touch!
A message from Cork Pride
“We hope everyone is safe and well at this challenging time.
Since the COVID-19 outbreak, The Cork LGBT+ Pride committee have been monitoring HSE and Government updates and meeting regularly to discuss how it will affect the festival for 2020.Our usual dates of July 26th-August 2nd are less likely to be feasible for this year.
Therefore, we have made the decision to change Cork LGBT+ Pride Festival 2020 dates to Saturday September 19th to Saturday September 26th, with the parade taking place on the 26th. We are confident that this is the best decision for the health and well-being of our community, as well as for the success of the festival in 2020”.
Youghal Pride by the Sea will (provisionally) take place on
September 19th 2020.
This is a new Facebook online community from LGBT Ireland. It’s a self-help and mutual support space for Older members of the Irish LGBT Community to connect and make the most of our diverse community during this period of uncertainty. Check it out now!
BeLonGTo is the national LGBT+ Youth Service.
“Our face to face services are closed as a precautionary measure to protect staff & community from the risk of COVID-19 virus. We are still providing a number of services remotely
We will be providing Monday Chats for information, referral and advice by phone, email and SMS. You can make an appointment with a Youth Worker here https://bit.ly/38QmWJs
Our Crisis Counselling Service with Pieta House, Preventing Suicide and Self Harm will continue to operate on a digital basis. If you are a client, our therapist, Nash will be in touch with you directly to provide more information to you.
Take care of one another More information is available on our website https://bit.ly/2IMQBsg “
YOUGHAL LGBT+ NETWORK
Due to Covid19, our Teatime Cafes are on hold…we have a Facebook page @LGBT+ Youghal Network and a WhatsApp group – if you’d like to get involved call Hayley on 0879890336.
Cork Gay Project are on facebook too and are offering a variety of Zoom / online activities where men can keep in touch with each other. Check them out!
LINC – Lesbians in Cork – are offering another wide range of online / interactive groups to see us through the crisis. All LBT women welcome!
And…let’s dance away our worries for a while with…